Pain is life and life is pain. You can’t hide from it. You can’t run from it. It will find you. Why? I don’t know why, but I do know the two (life and pain) go hand-in-hand. Suffering, on the other hand, is a choice. You choose how you react to every painful situation in your life. You give meaning to it. You can let it make you or you can let it break you.
I’m in no way saying your emotions are invalid. You might have all the reasons in the world to be angry at the world. Maybe no one would even judge you for it. Maybe you’re justified in your suffering, but is that what you want? Is that what’s really going to help you in the long-run? Wouldn’t you rather be the person who looks pain in the eyes and makes something beautiful out of it? Wouldn’t you rather be the person who finds their way back to the light?
Some people seek out pain, negativity, and toxicity. They might not even be aware of it. “Where can I find negative and toxic people? Where can I find people that are no good for me? Where can I find people that don’t add to my life? Oh! There they are!” They actively seek and walk towards situations and people that are no good for them. Maybe they don’t want to be alone. Maybe they’re scared. Maybe this. Maybe that. Find me a thousand excuses, but what good do any of those excuses do? You’ll still be exactly where you are with excuses. Excuses don’t move you forward. They hold you back. Get up out of your own way.
Don’t you want to move forward? Don’t you want to see what else is out there? What else is possible for you and your life? Why do people get stuck? Why do people actively choose to suffer? Move on. Love yourself. Walk towards peace, love, kindness, and happiness. Be alone. Do it on your own. Be self-reliant. Fill your own cup.
I don’t understand why suffering is romanticized. It’s not romantic. It sucks. Pain is inevitable, but you can use it to your advantage. Learn something from it. You don’t need to stay there. You don’t need to be a martyr. You don’t need the attention. Hold your head up high and walk, crawl, run through it. You might even be in hell right now. That’s okay. You might know evil. You might have faced the darkest days. You know pain inside and out. But do you know what else you know? You know happiness better than anyone else. You know love. You know joy.