Act like everything you do matters, because it does. Every minuscule thing adds up to the entirety of your life. Every single thing that has ever happened, every choice you’ve ever made, every decision you didn’t make, all the good, all the bad, the right, and the wrong, it has all brought you to where you are today- reading this post. All the decisions your parents made literally made you, a human being. All the decisions their parents made made them. The chances that that sperm and egg were the only ones that could have created you and they did is a miracle. Every little moment added up to that. That goes back to generation after generation. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that things don’t matter, because they do.
Pain will find you regardless. There is no avoiding pain. It will come and find you. You might as well get something out of it. You might as well be chasing after your dreams, because suffering is inevitable. You can’t escape it, so make it worth your while. Accept the good with the bad. There is nothing you haven’t made it through thus far. Don’t let things knock you off course.
You are your own worst enemy. You are the only person standing in your own way. You are the person allowing negativity into your life. You are the person allowing external circumstances and people affect you. You are the person making excuses. You are the only person responsible for where you are in life and where you’re going. Take charge. Take power. Become your own best friend. Don’t allow anyone else or anything else to take charge of your future.
Happiness is a little overrated. If you’re in the pursuit of it, you’ll never achieve it. Just be happy now. There are so many things to be grateful for. Stop focusing on what you lack and start focusing on what you have. Live from a place of abundance, not scarcity. If you want happiness, work on bettering yourself. Unless you’re progressing, unless you’re working towards goals, unless you’re working on bettering yourself, you won’t be happy. You know what else makes people happy? Doing things for others. Start focusing on becoming of service and of value to others.
Override your automatic responses. All the things that you do that you never really think about, they’ve just become habits, and they might not be that good for you, replace them with ones that are. What buttons do people push that get you to act in a way you’re not proud of? Focus on making sure you don’t get triggered anymore. Find a new response. Stop doing the same thing and expecting different results.
Do I feel like working out everyday? No. Do I feel like waking up early in the morning? No. Do I feel like reading everyday? No. Do I do it anyway? Yes. If you’re waiting around until you feel like doing things, you’re going to be waiting around forever. No one feels like doing the hard things. They just do them. That’s why most people don’t succeed, because most people would rather be comfortable. You want success? You want to achieve your dreams? You want to get to the next level? Get disciplined.
How do I do the things I don’t want to do? I don’t think about it. I just do them. I don’t give myself a chance to talk myself out of it. I’m already out the door. How did I do it in the beginning? By doing it every single day, NO excuses, until they became habits. How do I still do it? By scaring the crap out of myself. I use my fear of failure. I use my fear of for the future. I tell myself if I don’t do it one day, that one day might push me back, that one day might be my chance of opportunity, that one day matters, and not doing it for that one day could turn into not doing it everyday. Skip intense gratification and focus on the long-term.
Once you start doing the things you don’t want to do, you’ll have some momentum behind you. Keep that momentum going for as long as you can. Don’t stop until it becomes a daily part of your life, until it becomes routine, until you no longer need to motivate yourself to do it, until you do it on the days you don’t want to do it the most. You want to make your dreams come true? You have to work for it. You have to work on all areas of your life, not just one or two, all of it.
I have every excuse in the book not to do anything. I have every excuse in the book to sit around, telling everyone life is unfair, life is hard, why did this have to happen to me, and I wouldn’t be wrong for it, but I choose to get up and fight for my future every single day. I am relentless. I was a complete screw-up for a period in my life. Making a relationship my life goal, an addict, abusive parents, abusive relationships, terrible past, ended up in jail, hit rock bottom over and over again, depressed, insecure, tried to kill myself, in and out of mental hospitals, just a chain of bad events since the day I was brought into this planet. I don’t let any of that hold me back. I let it push me forward.
Don’t leave things for tomorrow. You only have today. Why leave something for tomorrow when you can do it today? Do things because it’s the right thing to do. Don’t look at everyone around you and start wondering why everyone isn’t doing what you’re doing and let yourself off the hook. Life doesn’t work like that. Do it because it’s right thing to do. Do it because you have bigger plans. Do it for the very reason that no one else is doing it.