Back in the day, my thoughts regarding my past, my shame, and my guilt would keep me in one place. I would freeze. I would have an unproductive day, giving up on anything and everything I had planned for myself. I would just wallow in my thoughts. I wouldn’t move. It’d be a downward spiral. My thoughts used to control me.
I was sitting on the couch today. The same thoughts come back. I was showering. The same thoughts show up. However, I realize I no longer freeze. I keep going on with my day. I let the thoughts come and go now. I don’t allow it to effect me anymore. I observe them and I let them pass. This has helped change my life around. Being able to have these kind of thoughts and carry on with my day regardless makes me really happy.
If you struggle with the same thing, I would suggest you be nicer to yourself. I would tell you not to judge your thoughts, to instead observe them and let them come and go. Remember the exercise from before? If not, try it with me now.
Imagine a red triangle…. Let it go.
Imagine running with a puppy at the beach… Let it go.
Imagine your biggest fear… Let it go.
In the same fashion you let these things go, you can let your actual thoughts go too. Don’t force them. It’s okay if it’s hard. It’s supposed to be. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.